The past has passed..

“Our history is not to be changed but accepted. We waste our time and energy when we ponder what might have been: “If I had…”. We must simply admit failure to ourselves, God, and our spouses. Accept God’s forgiveness, forgive yourself, and trust that your spouse will do the same. Beyond that, you cannot deal with the past. You must concentrate on the future, for it is in your hands to shape.” 
“Wounded marriages can be healed. Hope for the separated.”
Gary chapman 

It is also for women

Al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that he wanted to propose to a woman in marriage and the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) told him, “Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between the two of you.” [Ahmad, at-Tirmithi, An-Nasaa’i and Ibn Maajah]
As-San’aani said in Subul As-Salaam, “Such a ruling is also confirmed for a woman as she looks to the man who proposes to her, as she likes in him what he likes in her.” [Islamweb]